Showing posts with label Contemplation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Contemplation. Show all posts

Sunday, June 30, 2013

Past is Gone. So, Live for Present

Despite my mood is diving like the global gold price, I'm glad that I am back to the world of blogging. You seriously need to walk a thousand steps to feel what is it like to be in my shoes. Hence, never take your self-opinion on me too seriously as no one will actually give a damn. Today marks the first half of the year 2013 had came to. Seriously, no matter what had happened & be thankful that you and I have made through it. People or things that you have lost would never come back; even if they do, things are no longer the same. So, take my advice, stop living in your past & look forward then move forward! 

We human being have to learn the purpose of life in a hard way where you do not actually achieve success without first encounter failures. I heard of this saying about you need to go through the rain to see the beauty of rainbow. In other words, we indeed need to go through shits and hells before realizing how wonderful is the moments of success after we have break through obstacles.  When you are at the peak of the mountain, you will make lots of friends. However, it only shows you who are the truthful & real friends when you are at the bottom of the ground. So, be thankful to those who had be there with you. Never forget who was there for you when no one else was. 


For others that think I care about your opinions, viewpoints, and judgements that you have on me, this is for you! You can seriously get a life & continue enjoy your cynicism. I'm seriously on a negative-thought diet & therefore I would search the true happiness in my life & live it to the fullest! 



Disclaimer: This post of contains no sensitive issue & regarding to nobody. However, feel free to fit in at your own risk if you think it suits you. 



Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Astonishing January 2013


Greetings from Ipoh, family, brothers, sisters, friends, and readers. It's February in 2013! Happy belated Lunar New Year to all of you. May the year of Snake would bring all of us prosperity & endless luck regardless of our races, religious and background. 

I must say this year Chinese New Year had been one of the most wonderful festive celebrations I ever had. Something special & ample time spent with the family, relatives, and friends. For the last December & January was indeed spent with really worthy. Met up with a lot of friends that not been met & also attended my close brother's wedding lunch. Set a new milestone in OCBC Cycle Malaysia 2013; won a First Runner-Up! Awesome experience, I must say.




Unfortunately, just when I was enjoying my good time with my family & friends; this came out. I screwed up my exam by merely a tiny micro bit. This is so saddening & pathetic. Sigh.





I believe this is a challenge for me to work smarter & drill into much more details while contemplating the same knowledge in different aspects. I strongly believe what does not kill me makes me stronger & stand a step higher. 

That's for now, should end my post today with a photo of myself with a politic magnet that none of us do not know him, Tun Dr. Mahathir bin Mohamad .



That's all for now people, cheers!

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Story of Appreciation

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research,
Never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked,
"Did you obtain any scholarships in school?"
The youth answered "none".

The director asked,
" Was it your father who paid for your school fees?"
The youth answered,
"My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked,
" Where did your mother work?"
The youth answered,
"My mother worked as clothes cleaner.
The director requested the youth to show his hands.
The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked,
" Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?"
The youth answered,
"Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books.
Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said,
"I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked:
" Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered,
" I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked,
" please tell me your feelings."

The youth said,
Number 1,
I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today.
Number 2,
By working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3,
I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said,
" This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality"and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts.
When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others.
For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement.
He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, give him a Driver & Car for going around, Eat a Good Meal, learn Piano, Watch a Big Screen TV. But when you are Cutting Grass, please let them experience it. After a Meal, let them Wash their Plates and Bowls together with their Brothers and Sisters. Tell them to Travel in Public Bus, It is not because you do not have Money for Car or to Hire a Maid, but it is because you want to Love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will Grow Grey, same as the Mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done..

Monday, December 24, 2012

The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

Sunday, December 9, 2012

Back to December

Greetings readers, it's December! It may be the favourite month of the year for me. December is another month that reminds me lots of happy & heartbroken moments. Oh well, we always hear; Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. We should look forward & tomorrow is a better day. Do not really have the mood to write a lot today. 

Well, I should do a quick flash back on what had 2012 been to me.

January
A good kickstart of the year!

February
Commencement of Certificate in Accounting; weekend classes :)

Mac

Enlarging my social circle by chartering a Toastmaster Club in my workplace.

Was officially a debtor for several years ~ 

April
SIngapore Shopping Spree & Getaway~!

May
Finally determined to complete reading the Snowball!

June
Won a Gold medal in bowling match! Hooray~

July
Nightmare begins.

August
Chilling on top of the roof @ Ampang.

September
My First Milestone in Career! 

DnA'z Family celebrated my birthday!

October
CFS Annual Dinner

November
Contemplating by the awesome view~

December
I smell Freedom~ 


Saturday, July 21, 2012

NO FUSS-FIGHTING

Disagreements with people in your professional and personal life are unavoidable. Here are some tips for turning confrontations into constructive arguments that lead to compromises. 



  1. Be allies - When you argue, it is usually with a teammate, colleague, partner or family member. You're not enemies so don't wage war.
  2. Stop the abuse - No yelling, throwing objects, name calling, verbal attacks, threatening or slamming doors.
  3. Use "i" statements - Talk about your feelings instead of being accusatory.
  4. Don't hold in feelings - Or else, you will explode! And don't bring up past issues. Deal with problems as they arise and move forward.
  5. Walk away - For at least 4 minutes if you realize you are losing your patience. Take deep breaths and collect your thoughts and composure before returning to the conversation.

Adapted from: Toastmaster July 2012 Magazine 

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Today's Contemplation

  1. You can succeed the way you are.
  2. Success comes in every shape and profile. Success comes to some of the most negative people as well as the most positive ones. Success has more equal vision and less prejudice than the positive thinking theory promoted by some people.
  3. If you give your negativity enough thought, you may discover that they are in face the strongest assets in your professional development.
  4. Don't attempt to change your opinion about yourself. By ignoring your inner voice of self-judgement, you are able to free yourself from the trap that says, "change comes before success."
  5. Your negativity does not have as much power as your imagination thinks it has.
  6. The standards of judging negativity are artificially manipulated by humans and are not carved in stone. The standards often change according to the times and culture. What was considered positive in a given time or space may be considered negative in another.
  7. For some, the time of hibernating and resting is an essential process for generating highly creative energies.
  8. The important thing is to love your negativity, not to judge them, and to learn to use them to raise you up.
  9. The evil of all negativity is not in emotions and thoughts themselves, but in the judgments of these emotions and thoughts. Often judgement come in the vicious form of guilt, shame, and self-blame.
  10. Gather all of your negativity, without the intention to correct them and without judgement. While living and working with your negativity, know that these qualities are what make you unique. Be positively negative.

Saturday, December 10, 2011

The One That Changes Everything

There is one thing that is common to every individual, relationship, team, family, organization, nation, economy, and civilization throughout the world-one thing which, if removed, will destroy the most successful business, the most thriving economy, the most influential leadership, the greatest relationship, the greatest friendship, the strongest character, the deepest love.

On the other hand, if developed and leveraged, that one thing has the potential to create unparalled success and prosperity in every dimensional of life. Yet, it is the least understood, most neglected, and most underestimated possibility of our time,

The one thing is TRUST.

Trust impacts us 24/7, 365 days a year. It undergrids and affects the quality of every relationship, every communication, every work project, every business venture, every effort in which we are engaged. It changes the quality of every present moment and alters the trajectory and outcome of every future moment of lives-both personally and professionally.

Contrary to what most people believe, trust is not some sort, illusive quality that you either have or you don't; rather trust is a pragmatic, tangible, actionablr asset that you can create much faster than you probably think possible.

Adopted from: The Speed of Trust (By: Stephen Covey with Rebecca Merrill)